DON’T BE A COPY…. BE ORIGINAL….
A word we all would have used at least sometimes in our lives “CAN’T”. Using
this word simply means I am unable to do this work/task. The question here is
- Why can’t?
- Are we born with this attitude?
- Do we develop this attitude?
- Can we do something to change this attitude early in life?
The simple answer is that we are not born with it. We develop this attitude
over a period of time. So how does this happen? As kids, when someone
asks us to do something, what’s our first reaction, “I will do it” or “I can do it”.
Children respond with their hearts and not with their minds. As we grow, a
new story starts to build. The attitude slowly changes from I CAN to I
CAN’T. This happens due to various reasons.
- Parents Outlook
- Peers Outlook
- World Outlook
- Lack of Self Confidence
There can also be many other reasons but a few common ones are listed
above
Parents Outlook
As kids we learn a lot from our parents. We speak like them, act like them,
understand like them and even react like them. If the parent has the “I CAN’T
ATTITUDE” for example: Your mother asked your father to come early but he
bluntly said “I CAN’T” without even knowing the reason, you tend to pick that
up. If mother argued then father would shout (Men’s Ego) and you even pick
that up.
Peers Outlook
As you move into the outside world, you make friends. If your friend is asked
to do something by his parents, for example: Skip a friend’s birthday party to
go out with them, he may give more importance to the friend’s birthday and
say “I CAN’T come out. If parents force then, he threatens them emotionally.
You see it working and pick that up.
World Outlook
We don’t live in paradise any more so you will find people to be non-co-
operative more than being co-operative, example: A blind man is crossing
the road and some uncle tells you to help the blind man cross the road. Now
you can help him but imagine we are on a call with a friend. We may miss
the opportunity to help someone but not cut the call. Again here since we
have already learnt
I CAN’T attitude, we let the opportunity pass.
Lack of Self Confidence
Having a lot of friends and to hang out with them is fun. The question though
is “are they helping me build self-confidence? or wasting my time? Self-
confidence comes with a lot of practice and acceptance of the self.
A small Poem
'If you think you can do a thing, or you think you can't do a thing, you're
always right.'
Henry Ford
If you think you are beaten, you are.
If you think you dare not, you don't.
If you'd like to win but you think you can't, it's almost sure you won’t.
For out in the world you'll find success begins with a persons will.
It's all in the state of Mind.
Think big and your deeds will grow;
Think small and you fall behind.
Think that you can, and you will.
It's all in your state of mind.
If you think you are outclassed, you are.
You've got to think high to rise.
You've got to be sure of yourself before you can ever win a prize.
Life's battle doesn't always go to the stronger or faster one;
But sooner or later, the one who wins is the person who thinks they can.
Take out the T and do what?
That’s a nice question. The answer is very simple:
· Change the T to TRY
· Change the T to TRANSFORM
· Change the T to TARGET
Some Encouragement
· You will never know your real potential until you have TRIED
· You will not be able to help yourself and others until you TRANSFORM your thoughts
· You will never be able to reach anywhere in life until you TARGET
Learn Rajyoga Meditation free of charge and change you attitude
from I CAN’T to I CAN
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