Saturday, 5 August 2017

A Short Story - Journey from INSAN to INSANE

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This is your story, my story and everyone’s story that stays on planet earth.

The story of us humans and how did we reach where we are today which is a state of mind where we sometimes feel Insane.

So here it goes.

Long long ago, we arrived on a planet named earth.

The mountains were beautiful, with various shapes and sizes. Some even looked like animals.

The trees were green and full of fruits and vegetables.

The soil was very fertile and the natural resources like the sun, wind and water were used to generate energy.

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The perfect world, isn’t it?

We all started with focus on I, i.e. myself. We were mentally so powerful that we could give a lot of love, happiness, peace to all without any expectation.

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Our thoughts were so pure and powerful that even the NS, i.e. Natural Sources supported us in living a wonderful life.

Then, as Satan arrived in our lives AN entered, i.e. Arrogance and Negativity.

We were filled with EGO and started comparing.

We lost our real identity of I, the beautiful soul and lost the support from the NS, Natural Sources of energy.

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Arrogance and Negativity led us to destroying the planet by cutting the trees, using unnatural resources which lead to the slowly destroying our ozone layer.

As technology grew and we became greedy, E entered our lives. E stands for Electronics.

As E started dominating our homes, we started becoming lazy as electronic machines did a lot of work for us.

This slowly decreased our physical activity and started saving the energies which started converting to fats and we welcomed diabetes, cholesterol and various lifestyle diseases in our lives.

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As if Electronics was not enough, we were hit by another E. As they say that the last hit is always more powerful, this E proved it. This E is the internet.

We can still see the E, i.e. 2G on our phones when the network is weak.

As this E hit our lives, all the peace was lost as our minds were sucked into our cell phones and we were forced to access various things like Facebook, WhatsApp, Email, etc. which cut our single focus into various pieces.

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Can we see how we have moved from INSAN to INSANE?

We started with I, then joined by NS, then AN and finally E.

Now as we all continue to struggle in our lives, the reverse process has to start from E to I.

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What do you have to say?

Monday, 31 July 2017

Life – An IAS Exam



Life is an Exam, isn’t it? Too many issues, too many problems, relationships seem conflicting, managing work, home and many other responsibilities has become a big challenge.

Is there an end to this or will we die of pressure and stress?

IAS exam in India stands for Indian Administrative Services and is the toughest exam to crack. The reason is that as an IAS officer you get all the privileges of the Indian Government and have access to all the top officials. An exciting prospect, isn’t it? The pay is also good.

However we won’t speak about the exam for IAS officer but would look at our life instead.

IAS - the 3 most important letters of each one’s life which decides the course of the life. Let’s look at them one at a time.

I – Intent



Do we need intent for doing anything in life?

Example

For being clean we have to brush, take bath, wear clean clothes, etc. Intent is what we want to do in life which is related to personal, professional or general life.

Intention can be further divided into 2 parts i.e. Positive and Negative intent.

Positive Intent



Things that we have positive intent for can be

· Better Life

· Better Relationships

· Better Job

· Better Physical Assets and many more…

Negative Intent



· Intent to hurt someone

· Intent to cheat

· Intent to be lazy

· Intent to not help others and many more…

In both the positive and negative intent, our inner self knows what we are doing but somehow though we may be successful in the negative intent, we sometimes lag behind in the positive intent.

Why can that be? Do you have any Thoughts on this?

This brings us to the second letter and this is where the problem arises.

A – Action



When I think of this word, it feels like “I am facing a camera” a movie shooting feeling. However Action may be a 6 letter word but it defines the 6 stages of our lives, toddler, student, youth, working life, family life and old age life. The intent of doing things is there in each phase of life but the action defines how the life will sail at each stage.

Action again can be divided into 2 i.e. AC action and FAN action.

Don’t be surprised with the words used here because it’s interesting to know the full forms. Just read on.

AC Action



AC word related to Air Condition which we may use at home. However the AC here stands for Accurate and Consistent. The competition is so cut throat in this world today that if our actions lack any of the 2 elements then it can lead to failure of disappointment. I don’t think anyone of us like to fail.

Example

You sell a product or a service

· You need to understand your customer

· You need to have the right products

· You need to back it with good customer service

· You need to collect customer feedback on regular basis

If you skip any of these and loose accuracy and consistency then your competitor may just put you behind.

These 2 elements are needed even in other aspects of life like

· Performing your home duties
· Paying your bills
· Travelling outstation, etc

FAN Action



FAN again is not the FAN that you have at your home. This FAN refers to Fear, Anxiety and Negativity. When we are given a task for the first time or when we have to do something we don’t like then the first feeling that enters our mind is Fear which leads to Anxiety and then the Negative thinking about the self which does not allow us to act with confidence.

In such a scenario, we need to understand that whatever we have done until now has been learnt by us so we can do anything. We should also put more effort in understanding and maybe make notes and then study the matter. Sit in silence for a few moments and tell to yourself that “It’s possible”. Then just put your best foot forward and do it.

What will this do?

· Break your fear

· Make you feel more confident

· Open up new opportunities for you

This will then lead you to the last alphabet which is S

S – Success



Not everyone reaches here but when one does reach here, the feeling is very satisfying. It is said that “The Fruit of Patience is Sweet” but it requires the A – Action to be very powerful. Many of us move from I to A but many get stuck in the second phase.

The definition of success also keeps changing in every age

· For a Student its passing exam

· For a Job Seeker its getting a Job

· For a Single person its getting a good life partner

· For Parents its giving their children good education

· For Old Aged people its living a healthy life

In this world, out of the 100% population if we have to divide the ratio then it would look like this

· 60% are in the Intent Stage

· 30% are in the Action Stage

· 10% are in the Success Stage

To move from Intent to Action

· Decide a timeline

· Start Taking Small Steps

· Keep a tab on the Action

To move from Action to Success

· Get Accurate and Consistent

· Move out of the comfort zone

· Develop a “Can Do” attitude

So that’s about the IAS of life which we all go through. None of us if perfect and may lag somewhere but together let’s try and create some magic in our lives and keep moving from Intent to Action and achieve the Success we all want to achieve.

Cheers and All the Best…

Monday, 5 June 2017

The story of 2 Frogs, which one are you?



It’s the rainy season once again in India. Some people like this season while some people hate this season. However this season has its own flavors.

In the rainy season you see many animals but the most famous is the FROG, so I thought of sharing 2 FROG stories with you.

The Frog of the Well



This is about a place called Sundertalab. The place is very beautiful with a lot of greenery all around, various trees big and small and a garden of variety colorful flowers. Red, White, Violet, Orange and many other colors can be seen. The best place about Sundertalab is that it’s filled with the fragrance of the flowers.



Even if a person comes to this place feeling tired or irritated, his mood will automatically change once the fragrance enters his nose and hits the pleasure point of his brain.

In between all this greenery is also a Well. This well is filled with clean water and has now become a home of a frog. However it was not his home always.

This Frog had a very good character but always felt victimized.



Once when he was playing in the garden, some animals around told him some things about his attitude and his character which he didn’t like. He tried very hard to resist but the animals knew his weakness.

They could not see him happy so they tried to make him feel victimized and the trick worked.

The Frog was so upset that he jumped in the well while telling them that they would not see him again.

Since then the frog stayed in the well. Many people tried to pull him out of the well but he would not come out.

Sounds Similar?



We as humans also have a certain resistance level and people around can’t see us happy. They will try to find out our weakness and then try to de-motivate us or trouble us to the core.

Instead of improving our resistance level, we jump into the zone of discomfort and feel like a victim. We do not want to face those people as they bring bad memories to our minds.

The people who tried to pull the frog from the well are also around us which are our well wishers, asking us to forgive and forget but we are unable to do that.



To turn this around what you should do is increase your resistance level. I know it is tough but we have to work slowly and gradually. We can’t keep avoiding people who did bad to us but we can at least either talk less to them or give them so much respect that they feel awkward themselves.

The Deaf Frog



This is a story of Imaratstan. This place was a concrete jungle full of tall buildings. You could only see big blocks all around you and the streets were always buzzing with cars and people. The people of this place however loved their sports and did some weird sports activities.



These were activities where people as well as animals had to participate. No one was spared from it. They did this so that each one could get used to handling the pressure life sometimes brings on all of us.

One such weird event which was organized on a Sunday was “The FROG Race”.



The streets were empty, the cars were on a standstill and the banners were up and fluttering in the air. The people were starting to gather around a tall building of 10 floors. Not so big for humans but very big for the small little frogs because the frogs had to climb to the top of the building.

The Whistle was out, the frogs were ready at the starting point and the people were buzzing with their big mouths wide open. Before the race started, some people already started making fun of the frogs. Words like “These small little creatures” “Ugly looking Frogs” “Aims are high but height is small”.
All the de-motivating sentences they could ever say.



Finally the whistle was blown and frogs started to climb the building.

Some frogs had already given up listening to the comment beforehand and did not even begin. Some frogs were moving upward but fell listening to more de-motivating words. All were falling one by one.

But Wait! One little frog kept going and the people were amazed. He finally reached the top. The people were surprised how he managed to achieve this feat.



When people tried to find out they learnt that the frog was deaf so he did not hear any comments.

Sounds Familiar?



In life when we want to achieve something in life, there will be roadblocks. The situations can be dealt with but when it’s people the game becomes difficult. We are all made out of emotions. Emotions affect us more than situations. Sometimes in life, one of our own family members maybe de-motivating us.



The best thing to do is to be in silence, analyze the situation and keep moving ahead taking small steps.

If we open up our plans and we are unable to do things then we will be criticized as people can’t see your effort but can see your failure easily.



Hope you liked both the stories and would share it with someone who maybe in need.


Cheers and Best Wishes!!! 

Tuesday, 9 May 2017

The PastA Attitude


 
PastA Attitude is something you maybe hearing for the first time because PastA is a food item that we usually eat.

Now the question that arises here is

Has PastA got something to do with developing an Attitude?

Some things about Pasta




· Pasta comes in various shapes (Twisty looks good)
· Pasta can’t be cooked without other ingredients (For better taste we have
  to add Ketchup, White Sauce, Vegetables, etc.)
· Pasta is easy to cook
· Pasta is a good Family Meal

& many more which you all eating and cooking folks may know.

PastA and Stories




Food and Stories go hand in hand. These days during a meal we would be discussing about something or someone, watching youtube videos or thinking about the past or maybe watching tv. In short we are mentally connected with some story. Mostly of either the past or the future and we all love contributing to the discussion.

Past and Us




Research says that most of the people live with the past in their heads. Past has a lot of memories good and bad and people remember both of them. Living in the past actually is not good to the human health as we can often remember the bad memories which have hurt us but are not able to recall too many good memories about the past. This can destroy our present and our relationships. Past is also very twisty, has many incidences like ingredients, can be easily thought of as a defense and involves many members, usually from the family. Quite a few similarities with Pasta.

Types of Relationships




All of us have 2 types of Relationships

· With the Self
· With others (Family, Friends, Relatives, etc)

Past Associated with Self




· Failure in Student Life
· Failure in getting through the interview
· Failure in completing tasks on time
· Failure in not achieving much in life at an early age

& many more

Past Associated with Others




· He/She behaved badly with me
· He/She made me suffer losses
· I am in current state due to him/her
· He/She always keeps making the same mistakes

& many more

I guess that many must be wondering where the word PastA disappeared. Actually the word still exists and you will see the linkage soon.

The PastA Attitude




Attitudes can be negative or positive but why do we focus on negative? So now let’s look at the PastA Attitude. PastA has been written as one word but if you realize the letter A at the end of PastA is in capital letter for most of the blogpost. So while Past stands for the PAST which we discussed before, A stands for Acceptance. So Past+A makes it PastA. :)

Acceptance and Past




We say the past that has been associated with the self and others. Well the past keeps following us in the present and tires to destroy our future hence Acceptance is the way to shield ourselves from the shadows of the past. We are supposed to learn from the past, that’s it. There is nothing more which we should carry from there.

Our Current State




Many of us like to change ourselves but it seems tough as it requires us to take certain onus and then work hard to bring the change. What we however do can be seen below with a few examples.

Example 1: (Acceptance with Self)



We have been finding a job and have been attending multiple interviews. Somehow we are not being able to crack the interview and its taking longer. All our friends and relatives are also trying to tell us various things. Now, we can either take that feedback and work hard for the next interview preparation of give up mentally.

Next day when we wake up, the first thought will be what if I can’t clear even today? It’s a new day, yesterday was the past and no 2 days are alike. Why such a thought then? Learn to accept first that the failure is gone behind and success is waiting for me with open hands. Then go for
and interview and I am sure you will crack it.

Example 2: (Acceptance with Others)



All of us are human beings and tend to make mistakes. Sometimes the mistakes can also be very bad and annoying. When we stay in a joint family and with negativity surrounding all of us we tend to make mistakes. Say out of Jealousy, Hatred, Anger, etc. Someone tried to spoil your relationship with a family member or did some mistake or told a lie. Now you hate that action and you stop speaking to the person who made the mistake.

The problem here is that it does not stop at the conversion. The mental conversation is on and you will always look for an opportunity to give back. Sometimes for years you carry the bad vibes of the past in the mind which spoils your health and you bring it up at every conversation. Forgiving is a better option though but that is possible only when you Accept that what he/she did was their karma. I have to do good and forgiving will help me heal myself.

The Power of Acceptance




Acceptance is the key to convert momentary happiness to enduring happiness. It helps you move from feeling happy to actually being happy.

There are two ways out of a problem: accept what’s happening, see the positive, and choose a peaceful state of mind; or fight against it, be miserable, and struggle against the universe.

Do share some more examples that you would be aware of. I would love to hear them.

Should we develop the PastA Attitude?

Sunday, 30 April 2017

This is the Reason we don’t grow



He is ahead, I am behind. He is rich, I am poor. He is brilliant, I am dull. Do we do this comparison all the time in life? We are constantly comparing ourselves with everyone else around and trying to move forward. Compare, Compete and Compromise are the 3 words driving our current life.

Comparing with people, competing with the circumstances and Compromising on Happiness.

Where is this leading us?



It is leading us towards STD i.e. Stress, Tension and Depression.

When does comparison start?



It starts at an early age and carries on till death.

Where do we learn it from?



Our parents I guess. Have you seen parents comparing either you with your sibling or you with your neighbour? Each one of us is very unique in our own ways but still the comparison. Why does this happen? It’s because parents can’t see what is the available quality but trying to make a copy out of the child.

What do we do with the Learning?



We then start to compare with kids who have much better than us. The list then flows to the parents and they start thinking what to do? It’s a vicious circle you see. What the parents are giving to their child is what’s coming back to them. Then we start to have stress between the wants and the needs.

The growth of Comparison



As we grow from kids to adults, we start comparing ourselves with others and the sentences that we looked at the beginning start to hit our minds. Does this mean we should not have ambitions? We should have ambitions no doubt and work towards achieving our goals but without comparison.

8 step formula to avoid comparison



· Accept yourself as a unique special person (USP)

· Always compete with yourself

· Keep the learning curve active

· Keep yourself fit

· Do things for others without expectations

· Try to discover your uniqueness

· Spend time with yourself (Yoga, Meditation, A Silent walk, Listen to your favourite music)

And most important

Practice GRATITUDE



Every one of us should have a DOG in place.

Hey not the pet. I was referring to Diary of Gratitude. The reason why writing is important is because when we write, we also speak to our minds which we would usually not do otherwise.

Our minds have enough distractions like Facebook, Whatsapp, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. and even if we avoid them, our mind still does not accept silence. It will switch over to Outings with Friends, Television, Playing Games etc.



We can’t control our mind but we have to speak to it and try to understand the way it’s functioned and what can drive it in the right direction. This is possible only by spending time with yourself.

So let’s work together and get rid of this Reason (Comparison) and keep growing in life.



We should not compare others or ourselves to anyone.

Cheers!!!


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