Thursday, 19 November 2015

Things to consider during Performance Appraisal

A wonderful tool called feedback, which is now integrated as part of our
performance management has been into existence for a long time.
It is seen that feedback in the corporate world is usually given by the
manager to his team member. Since feedback is given in a session, it also
enables the employee and his manager to meet up for a discussion and
also a cup of tea sometimes.

What is Feedback?

Feedback is a conversion between 2 people which leads to a certain end
result which is expected to be achieved. As it’s given by a Manager to his
team member so it can be assumed that the Manager is more responsible
and knowledgeable than the team member who could be at a junior level.
Feedback given on time can lead to the goal being achieved at the right

Who is a Manager?

I am sure that you must have watched the serial Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu
Thi. In the same way, we can say that even the Manager was once a team
member. The reason to strain on this is because many times when the
Manager achieves the position he may tend to forget the past and try to be
very authoritative in nature. This sometimes leads to a conflict of thinking
between the Manager and the team members. Now if we break the word
Manager it would sound like Manage Resources or Man Age Resource. It
simply means that he is a Man who has to deal with people of different age
groups who are in the form of resources to achieve the team goal.

Who is a Team Member?

A team member can be either a Male or a Female, Experienced or
Fresher, Trained or Untrained. In short we can look at our hand and say
that there are 5 fingers, not all are of the same height or same width but
when they come together it makes a hand which we use for work. Every
finger is as important. If we look at each team member with this outlook
then team bonding becomes easier.

Is your feedback backing up or pushing back?

I am sure you must have gone through feedback at some point in your life.
We all start somewhere and then move up the ladder. Our personality gets
developed on our past experiences and the way we are brought up. We
tend to get both Negative and Positive feedback. What we do with it is what
enhances our growth in life.
Giving feedback is not wrong but the way we give it makes the difference.
We all have team goals to achieve and everyone needs to work together to
achieve it but in life and workplace, you will always find that one person
who may not agree with your style of working. The reason can be either
the person could not have understood the criticality of the goal or it can be
due to a past experience.
It has been seen that no one is ready to accept that they are weak, even
though they would be.
Speaking only about the weaknesses can demoralize the enthusiasm on
the team member. The best way to give feedback is to first
appreciate what is good in him/her because everyone is born with
some qualities. Then add by saying that if you can just add this then
it will enhance your personality and improve our bonding which will
lead to achieving the team goal.
I am sure, we all watched the movie LAGAAN. Amir Khan knew what each
one was good at and used it to perfection to create a team. The same way
if we know the good, then we can appreciate that first, explain the goal and
create togetherness so that it creates a win-win situation.
Definitely, not an easy thing to do as it requires patience but if you are able
to align all your team members and help them enhance their personalities
then believe me that you have fans for life.

Saturday, 10 October 2015

Why Learning Is So Hard And What You Can Do About It?

I don’t know how many of you remember these 3 letters IIN which, were heard or seen everywhere
in India. There were many TV ads and also radio commercials that were on air.

For those who don’t remember, look at the picture below and you may just remember.

As time goes by and new commercials/ads start to appear on Television we tend to forget the old
ads. I am not promoting Idea Internet Network here but trying to make a point.

Let’s look at the video below and you may just get a clue of what I am trying to say.

I hope you got the message. For those who did not still understand, let me clarify. The ad above shows that the guy wants to start a business but is unaware of how to do it. His friend refers him to IIN and he keeps learning and starts his own business.

What I liked about the ads though is that they were promoting Learning. 

We start off at school as kids and hate studies, waiting to get out of school and into college. Then finally we finish studies and get onto our jobs. As we start to work in the corporate world, we start associating ourselves with the knowledge and position that we have gained. We tend to get into the comfort zone and suddenly one day as we are asked to learn new things/skills, we show resistance.

The reason though is very simple. Everyone loves their comfort zone and is happy with the knowledge that they possess. Now as you grow, your nature starts getting into rejection mode as learning takes effort and time. What we forget though is that learning is required at every step.

As I got these 3 letters in my mind IIN, the first thought was definitely Idea Internet Network but the second thought was Impossible Is Nothing. If you have the will to learn then you will learn.

As smile is a curve that sets everything right, in the similar way Learning is a curve that sets your life in the right direction. In short you don’t have to depend on people for the smaller things. I have seen a lot of adults, especially after the age of 40 being too rigid to learn new things.

I would urge you all, to always keep your mind open to learning. You may have a serious boss, an irritating friend, pestering neighbor, etc. Everyone teaches you something. If you can go beyond
the shouting, irritation and pestering, I guarantee you that you will only move forward.

Being a thief can put you in the path of the law but my friend, please learn to steal the good you see in others as its safe and soon it will be a part of your personality.

Lastly, I would say “There is no age to learn, if you have the will then you will find a way”.

Thursday, 1 October 2015

Why You Need to Stop saying I Can't and Start saying I Can



A word we all would have used at least sometimes in our lives “CAN’T”. Using
this word simply means I am unable to do this work/task. The question here is
  • Why can’t?
  • Are we born with this attitude?
  • Do we develop this attitude?
  • Can we do something to change this attitude early in life?

The simple answer is that we are not born with it. We develop this attitude
over a period of time. So how does this happen? As kids, when someone
asks us to do something, what’s our first reaction, “I will do it” or “I can do it”.
Children respond with their hearts and not with their minds. As we grow, a
new story starts to build. The attitude slowly changes from I CAN to I
CAN’T. This happens due to various reasons.
  • Parents Outlook
  • Peers Outlook
  • World Outlook
  • Lack of Self Confidence 
There can also be many other reasons but a few common ones are listed
Parents Outlook

As kids we learn a lot from our parents. We speak like them, act like them,
understand like them and even react like them. If the parent has the “I CAN’T
ATTITUDE” for example: Your mother asked your father to come early but he
bluntly said “I CAN’T” without even knowing the reason, you tend to pick that
up. If mother argued then father would shout (Men’s Ego) and you even pick
that up.

Peers Outlook

As you move into the outside world, you make friends. If your friend is asked
to do something by his parents, for example: Skip a friend’s birthday party to
go out with them, he may give more importance to the friend’s birthday and
say “I CAN’T come out. If parents force then, he threatens them emotionally.
You see it working and pick that up.

World Outlook

We don’t live in paradise any more so you will find people to be non-co-
operative more than being co-operative, example: A blind man is crossing
the road and some uncle tells you to help the blind man cross the road. Now
you can help him but imagine we are on a call with a friend. We may miss
the  opportunity to help someone but not cut the call. Again here since we
have already learnt
I CAN’T attitude, we let the opportunity pass.

Lack of Self Confidence

Having a lot of friends and to hang out with them is fun. The question though
is “are they helping me build self-confidence? or wasting my time? Self-
confidence comes with a lot of practice and acceptance of the self.

A small Poem
'If you think you can do a thing, or you think you can't do a thing, you're
always right.'
Henry Ford

If you think you are beaten, you are.

If you think you dare not, you don't.

If you'd like to win but you think you can't, it's almost sure you won’t.

For out in the world you'll find success begins with a persons will.

It's all in the state of Mind.

Think big and your deeds will grow;

Think small and you fall behind.

Think that you can, and you will.

It's all in your state of mind.

If you think you are outclassed, you are.

You've got to think high to rise.

You've got to be sure of yourself before you can ever win a prize.

Life's battle doesn't always go to the stronger or faster one;

But sooner or later, the one who wins is the person who thinks they can.

Take out the T and do what?

That’s a nice question. The answer is very simple:
·         Change the T to TRY
·         Change the T to TRANSFORM
·         Change the T to TARGET
Some Encouragement

·         You will never know your real potential until you have TRIED
·         You will not be able to help yourself and others until you TRANSFORM your thoughts
·         You will never be able to reach anywhere in life until you TARGET

Learn Rajyoga Meditation free of charge and change you attitude
from I CAN’T to I CAN

Understanding Knowledge the way it is

We have read a lot about the term KNOWLEDGE in our schools,
colleges, universities and even when we work or do business we hear this term.

Is it important to be Knowledgeful? I am sure many of you would say yes and some
could even disagree if they did not know what’s the importance of this term?

Let’s look at a few questions first

1) Is information and knowledge the same?
2) Should I have knowledge related to my work only?
3) Why should I gain knowledge as people who have just done schooling are good 

These are questions that need clarification before we move ahead.

Information & Knowledge – The difference

Information and knowledge look like the same but they are definitely different.
Information is everywhere & available in abundance. How much of that you put to
work is what is called Knowledge.

Knowledge Related to Work

In this case the choice is completely yours & depends on your capacity. I am sure
if you have additional knowledge it doesn’t go waste. It may be of use to you some
time later but it can be of use to others. After all human life is all about growth and
contribution. Isn’t it?

Knowledge is not only studies

I am sure many of us have attended schools & colleges and gained a lot of
knowledge. The question though is how much of it are we able to implement while
in real work scenario? Knowledge is not limited to only studies. We need to keep
learning new things life-long & then implementing them.

A Short story on knowledge

Maria was an intelligent and hardworking girl who loved to read books and always
excelled in her academic tests. One day during a class lecture, Maria’s teacher
asked the students, “Do you have any power?”

To this one of the students who always got first position in the school’s racing
competition, raised his hand and said, “Yes ma’am my power is in my legs, I can
run very fast!”

“Ok. Anyone else?” the teacher looked around waiting for some other answers.
Maria then raised her hand and said, “Ma’am I have the power of knowledge.
Whatever I have learnt from reading books and listening to classroom lectures, all
this has contributed towards increasing my knowledge and giving me more
wisdom.” As Maria finished, everyone in the classroom burst into laughter and
made fun of her.

The next day when Maria went to school, she saw a note on the notice board. ‘Who
is the most intelligent student of our school?’ the headline read. The notice was
about the annual quiz competition. Maria beamed with joy as she had found the
way to prove to her classmates that she really does have a power — the power of

The competition was to be held after a month so Maria engrossed herself in reading
books of general knowledge. She studied day and night and was very confident on
the day of the quiz.

The competition began and Maria responded to all questions correctly. She won the
quiz contest with 100 per cent marks and got the title of ‘The most intelligent
student of the school’. Along with this title, she also got a trophy and two years’
100 per cent fee waiver.

The classmates of Maria were astonished at her success and were looking at her
with embarrassment on their faces.

Maria went towards them and said, “My dear friends, physical strength is not the
only power — real power lies in knowledge which does not weaken even with the
passage of time.”

If you would have realized after reading all this is that Knowledge is important but did you wonder why the title of this was “KNOWLEDGE is LAMP”

LAMP is divided into 4 words i.e. LIGHT, AWARENESS, MIGHT, POWER.

 For a blind man, Knowledge is Light

 For an inquisitive child Knowledge is Awareness

 For an Aged Person knowledge is Might

 For a young working professional or businessman Knowledge is Power

There are other powers also like Nuclear Power, Money Power, Status Power, etc.
but as we start to grow from childhood isn’t Knowledge the first power we get?
That’s why we pray to Saraswati (Goddess of Knowledge) everyday but Laxmi
(Goddess of Wealth) only one day.

Do let me know what you think about this